She insists that she isn’t angry or upset with anyone. This response only adds to my confusion and pain, as her actions suggest otherwise.

Dear Annie: How can I come to terms with my mother’s death when I didn’t even know she had passed until weeks later, and was unable to say goodbye? My sister cleared her house and arranged the funeral without telling me. A stranger informed me after it was all over. My mother had distanced herself from me for years, always favoring my sister.